Crossing the Line

As I write this, the cops have locked down a town in upstate New York and are looking for two escaped cons.  The woman who helped them get out of Dodge has a sign posted on her home referencing "just falling in love" and has gone on to greener pastures.  I am livid.  I want to call her names equating   ta female dog, but then I like animals and I won't insult the breed; they don't deserve it.  Here's what I want to know---since I get pulled over or tracked down if I don't have on a seat belt, why is this woman not locked up?  She committed a crime!  At first I did not believe the rumours.  Frankly, I looked at the photos and I know how the press works.   She's a heavy, older woman and she was an easy target.  It made for a salacious story and the system wants an easy out.  Instead of conceding that perhaps these guys should not have cascaded down the system, it's simpler to put the blame on an employee.  But, she then admitted that she had helped them.  All gloves were off as far as I was concerned.

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I have a lot of energy when it comes to this topic and for good reason.  Frankly, I don't understand the double standard.  I just finished a very well written book by the husband of Debra Lefave (Gorgeous Disaster).    Since her arrest and conviction, Owen Lafave has gone on to speak out on behalf of male victims (yes, they are) of teacher assault.  Watch the interview of Debra with Matt Lauer  and then read the book and you will get a full understanding of just how manipulative this woman is.  She talks about being modest, yet her husband writes that she wore provocative clothing to school.  She wasn't shy as she had a career when she was young as a singer that opened for well known music groups.  She taunted a woman in a restaurant (I won't go into details for spoiler reasons).  She seemed to thrive on the interest of the media.

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Had Debra been a male teacher who had fixated on a male student, male commentators would have been outraged.  Yet, as she is a "hot blond," they make light of the matter.  They would not have been positive if she had gone after a female student, or if she had been an ugly woman.  However, men are forever moaning that women are getting off lighter in the courts.  Huh?  All of the women that I know wanted her to get what she had coming.  It was the males who defended her.

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I saw the same thing take place with Mary Kay Letourneau.  Over and over the males would call in  to talk shows and laugh about it.  They seemed to think that it was every male's fantasy to have sex with their teacher.  Oh really?  I ask again, would it be so funny if it were a male teacher and a female student?  Or a male teacher and a male student?  They would be whining and wanting to beat the guy's ass, I'm sure.  And then---the statement that women get off lighter.  Tell that to the women who got lobotomies for being promiscuous, when it wasn't even an offence for males.

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Mary Kay Letourneau's student had his life derailed by her actions.  He had showed great promise at a very early age as an artist.  Who knows what he would have done had she not intervened.  He was forced to raise two children at far too young an age.  He might have gone on to art school.  We will never know because it did not happen.  In a recent   interview he looked defeated and depressed while she acted like she was twelve years old.

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In Canada, we had the case of Karla Homolka and her "deal with the devil."  Every woman saw right through her.  At the time, the panel that interviewed her and gave her the deal was all male.  She was an extremely good looking woman who played the victim card.  They didn't have a chance.  It wouldn't have worked had she looked like Eileen Wournos.   The good looking get away with murder.

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Which gets me to today's manhunt.  I had a friend who crossed the line in her career.   There are many jobs that place limits on employee conduct;  teachers, priests, psychologists, etc are forbidden, for good reason, to get involved with their charges.  It is a breach of trust and it hurts the clients.  As women have moved into jobs once held by men, I'm sad to report that they have also engaged in conduct unbecoming.  Here's my question---if it was an abuse of trust or power when men did it, why wouldn't it be the same for women?  Why do people say it's just love when women do so?   To brush it off as abuse of power for men and love for women is to say that women still don't have the same authority as males.  That's what it comes down to in the end.  That's why it's so insulting.

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You don't get respect---you earn it.  With it comes responsibility.

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This woman should be arrested.  She needs to be held accountable.  She breached security and endangered the lives of the public and her fellow staff.    She abused her position of authority.  She's no better then any male officer who forces a female offender to perform a sexual act.  She has to be charged as an accessory for any crime that these two commit.